Archive for May, 2012

I was at my grandson’s baseball game last week. Which if you’ve ever attended a 6-8 year old baseball game, not only is it amusing but impressive as well. Here are these little kids posturing after their favorite baseball idols, and actually making plays! My grandson will randomly run over for a good-luck hug during the game – the entire event is priceless.

At this last game, our daughter-in-law (she’s one of the coaches on his team) came over and asked my husband how he used to handle the parents who interfere too much in their respective child’s game, back when he used to coach little league . I looked over to the parent she was referring to, and saw that he was in that little boys face aggressively and sternly correcting him for his performance. The boy was visibly shaken, his face was red and he had tears welling in his eyes. Our daughter-in-law said this particular father is constantly harassing his child on how he plays the game. Then I noticed this mother had grabbed her child by the arm and started yelling at her, in front of everyone. This little girl was in tears.  Neither of these children were behaving badly, all this was because of how they were playing their game.

My intention is not to discuss their parenting skills – or lack of. But what has really stood out to me is each parent’s loss of fun. These children are learning rules of playing a game, developing motor skills and the muscles for them, oh and did I mention, playing a game.

I wonder why it is that a lot of us lose the ability to play games and have fun. Or is it that we have over-developed a competitive spirit? Over the years I’ve realize that my husband’s idea of fun is to work, albeit his choice of what he works on. So perhaps it’s more of the definition of fun and games.

The world is constantly changing, the child of today is learning far more far faster than my generation, and all of us live in a constant state of multi-tasking. I think it is very important that we remember how to play, and allow ourselves to play.  And to let our children be children, and play.

Those familiar with the positions of the Medicine Wheel will refer to the South as a place of creativity, of learning and of trust. The South also represents the summer-time with the element of the Sun. It is these qualities combined with youth and growth that, to me, makes a secure place to allow our true inner child out to play (again).  I appreciate the timing of this lesson, on the eve of the “unofficial” start of summer.


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